The Young and the Restless - MESSAGE BOARDS

I've been dealing with this for 37 yrs. My husband now has the internet...in the past it was harder for him..the internet has made it easier plus it's far more graphic. Anything goes it seems!
I'm glad Y&R is addressing this problem. I can totally relate to Lily..that was me over 30 yrs. ago.
I've watched Y&R since the beginning. That's one of the reasons I watch. They take on topics like this.
Adnilyak

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I really don't know how I deal with it. At first, I thought he would stop if I asked. He always would say he was sorry but then I would catch him again. It has gone on like that for years...he'd get caught apologize and then we went on with our lives. Now here it is 37 yrs later and the same scenario ....I just had to deal with it a year ago. Again the "I'm Sorry" "I have a problem"..."forgive me." At this point, I just bury it deep inside me. Now I'm not so much hurt as angry...now menopause has set in and he has felt the wrath Pay backs.....they can be a b*&#@!

Below is my post under 'Daniel' that I am posting her because your post shows just how serious and prevalent this addiction is. I hope you have someone to talk to about this. Your husband may think he doesn't need help, but you can sure use some support and understanding. Most importantly, do not keep burying your hurt and pain. It only hurts you, not him. I am a survivor of sexual abuse. What your husband is doing is about as close to actually sexually abusing you as one can get. In my lay counseling I have counseled women whose husbands were into porn and the husbands believed it had nothing to with sex or their wives. True, it doesn't but the pain and damage it causes is devasating. Please get help, no matter how old you are.


I like the storyline with Daniel's obsession with porn. The Young and Restless has been known to tackle tough social issues of the day (although it has been a long time since they did) and this is one. Porn is very addictive as Daniel is finding out.

He also is finding out how different men and women view it. Women see it as sexual and take it personally when their husband/boyfriend is into it. I do hope YR deals with it intelligently and realistically and not make it quickly go away. I do hope they seek counseling and that Daniel gets into a 12 step program to deal with his addiction. Maybe Neil will be the one to help him getting into a program since he was in AA.

Let's remember that people in addiction deny their fault or actions and tend to blame others. We see that happening with Lily and Daniel. Lily feels she is not fulfilling Daniel's sexual need when porn has little to do with that. It has become Daniel's 'drug' of choice.