General Hospital - MESSAGE BOARDS

Quote cardgirl: I may be in the minority, however, what Sonny and Carly did was in a time of emense grief. I know I have done things that I would have not have done if I would have been in a rational state of mind. Robin and Patrick had sex which came out of Robin's grief over Georgie, which is really no different than what Carly and Sonny did. It's not like Sonny and Carly set out to do that, and it is not the same as them having an affair. Should they have been honest with their perspective mates? Absolutely!

Sonny and Carly have done alot of intentionally hurtful things, this was not one of them. I think it would have been nice to see this play out where Sonny and Carly confessed what happened, and Kate and Jax would have been able to keep it in prospective. It was sex meaningless sex. The problem now is that Carly and Sonny did not reveal this when they should have. To me this is the lie, the bigger issue. Perhaps if they would have not kept this secret for such a long time, Jax and Kate may have been able to understand it better.

So, this is what I would like to see happen, and yes, I know it will be vastly unpopular. But I would like for at least Jax to realize what truely motivated Carly's behavior, and not let this betrayal ruin what is good or what could be good about their marriage. Sometimes people who get through really big things especially in a marriage, end having a stonger relationship. As for Kate, I think she should put off the wedding to Sonny and take some more time to develop their relationship. She really needs to evaluate wheather or not she wants to be with a man who lies to her about alot of things.

Finally, I would just like to say that I thought it was so wrong for Diane to try and force Max to out the secret to Kate, and it was strange that Kate heard it from an emplyee, a virtual non-character. This may just be me also, but, I would not want my employees knowing these thing and or discussing them amoung eachother which is what Max and Diane did, and I think hearing this from an employee, is well really crossing the line.

Quote jnlforever

Are you telling me that you wouldn't want to know that the man you are about to marry had sex with his ex.....I sure as heck would!! And I would be down right peeved if know one told me.

Quote esprit: i actually feel bad for Carly... specifically Morgan. Poor kid.

Quote jnlforever

Really? Morgan yes.....Carly absolutely not!!! I think it is about time she learns about consequences. I wonder who she is going to blame this time for her actions?

Quote ghfanfare: I don't think there is any reason for Kate to know what went on before the marriage, unless there is reason to suspect an STD. After the marriage, that is another story.

Why is Kate so insecure, anyway?!

Quote ghfanfare

Ouch, gen. That hurt. Need some band-aids after that one. I don't think you really know anything about my standards so let me be clear, I don't condone cheating.

I am saying that since this cheating has already happened, in this instance, it would have been best if Sonny and Carly had kept their mouths shut and no one would have known at all, especially since it seemed to be a one-time deal under duress and they both want to move on.

However, at this point it is better that both "wronged" parties know since it has been blabbed all over town.

Quote cardgirl: I may be in the minority, however, what Sonny and Carly did was in a time of emense grief. I know I have done things that I would have not have done if I would have been in a rational state of mind. Robin and Patrick had sex which came out of Robin's grief over Georgie, which is really no different than what Carly and Sonny did. It's not like Sonny and Carly set out to do that, and it is not the same as them having an affair. Should they have been honest with their perspective mates? Absolutely!

Sonny and Carly have done alot of intentionally hurtful things, this was not one of them. I think it would have been nice to see this play out where Sonny and Carly confessed what happened, and Kate and Jax would have been able to keep it in prospective. It was sex meaningless sex. The problem now is that Carly and Sonny did not reveal this when they should have. To me this is the lie, the bigger issue. Perhaps if they would have not kept this secret for such a long time, Jax and Kate may have been able to understand it better.

So, this is what I would like to see happen, and yes, I know it will be vastly unpopular. But I would like for at least Jax to realize what truely motivated Carly's behavior, and not let this betrayal ruin what is good or what could be good about their marriage. Sometimes people who get through really big things especially in a marriage, end having a stonger relationship. As for Kate, I think she should put off the wedding to Sonny and take some more time to develop their relationship. She really needs to evaluate wheather or not she wants to be with a man who lies to her about alot of things.

Finally, I would just like to say that I thought it was so wrong for Diane to try and force Max to out the secret to Kate, and it was strange that Kate heard it from an emplyee, a virtual non-character. This may just be me also, but, I would not want my employees knowing these thing and or discussing them amoung eachother which is what Max and Diane did, and I think hearing this from an employee, is well really crossing the line.

Quote frustratedfan: I haven't been watching GH lately but have a case of insomnia and decided to peek in ....I was intrigued by this thread.

I totally agree with Gen in that this is a pattern for Sonny and Carly so they don't get a "redo" (whatever Carly called it) in my book.

Kate and Jax had a right to know but this is where I disagree with some. The right to know is from their significant others. It is not anyone else's truth to tell. To be upset with someone else for not divulging the info is misplaced anger in my opinion.

My view on this matter has changed over the years. Initially I would say you have a duty to tell but what I've come to realize is that, in most cases, people already know...deep down inside. They may not have details but they know and are just not ready to face it. It is not my job to force reality on them. Should they ask...I'd tell them...otherwise I'd keep my mouth shut unless there were dire circumstances.

If they're honest, both Jax and Kate know their spouse (or spouse to be) and are aware of the dysfuntional relationship between them and should not be surprised. Let's face it...it's who Sonny is and Kate knows...she just hopes he will change. Even Carly is present enough to know it's a pattern for the two of them and Jax has had a ringside seat to this behavior. So deep down, this really shouldn't be a surprise for either and in fact should be an expectation.

Well I'll return to my self imposed banishment.

Quote Vanrainmom: Still agree with Cardgirl

Quote RainStormRaider: What Gen said.....