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What do yall say a 32 year old man wants with a 19 year old girl...

Here is my problom, i have been at my job here now 5 months, and this guy is on shift worl so his is not on days everyday.
he has been trying to check me out and talk to me since the first day he seen me...
i never gave him the time a day untill a week ago we talked..

anyway i had to work overtime last week to night and he was on night, and he kept waving at me, so of cource i waved back, not a mean person...
he came into the rooms when we were working so e could see me i guess...
the last day of overtime i had this earge if that what u want to call it..
me cousin thought i was gonna go talk to him, she gave him my number after i told her to..
ok we texted for to days. it was great.

well i told my sister i tell her everything.
i lied to her and told her he was 25 instead of 32 she was not very happy, but get this he has been married before, he has to kids, a 6 and 12 or 13 year old, that kind didnt bother me but it did.
my sister got me thinkng i guess, o then i told him we could go out, we were suppost to go saturday night, now were not even talking.

he said that is kinda scary for someone to manipliate me that easily and for someone to date him they would have to be in controll of there life



so mu question is what does a 32 year really want with a 19 year old

be honest i need to know this.. would yall or should i back off

I would totally back off. You and him are at two different points in your life. Your still young enjoy yourself, he has already been through the stage you are in your life right now. I would find someone closer to your age. He could just be looking for some arm candy. Trust me you don't want the baggage of an ex-wife, kids, nothing but a headache for a 19 year old.

I totally agree with minancee. But I may be more blunt.
Well as blunt as one can be on a messageboard.
A 32 year old man wants a 19 year old for one thing and it isn't your wisdom.

He is a spooky man who needs control, so he thinks a young girl will make him KING.

You should not care if he is upset at you saying NO to his advances. It shows what an immature putz he is.

He should know better.
Run girl - do not walk - run.

My sweet friend, Please listen to these ladies. This is a bad man trying to take advantage of your youth. Please don't get pulled into an abusive, controlling situation.

Please do not return his call. Just accept this a one time text friend and move on. He has too much baggage. Kids and an ex-wife. There is something wrong here.

Stay with a friend who is only a few years your senior. Like no more than 24. A five year range is ideal at your age. Good luck and let us hear from you again.

99% of the time when a man that age wants to date a 19 year old, its because they want an adult/child relationship yet a legal one.

But look at it this way. What type of relationship would you at 19 have with a 6 year? You would be the adult, taking care of a child. You would have no common interests. What type of relationship would you have with a 13 year old? Again, you would be the adult figure, taking care of a child with no common interests.

This jerk was a father when you were in first grade. That means that he was 19 years old when you were 6. That says it all. Would you want your 19 year old daughter to date a 32 year old man? I doubt it.

BTW, what I'm saying has nothing to do with you as an individual or your maturity. I'm not talking about you personally. I'm talking about a grown man wanting to date what to him is a child.

A great rule of thumb to use when dating is to ask yourself if you would want your daughter to date the guy. We tend to put up with more for ourselves than we would for our child. If the answer to the question is I would not want my daughter to date this guy then you shouldn't either. You deserve the same things you would want for your child.

Do not JUST back-off, but SLAM THE DOOR SHUT and board up the windows, throw alligators in the moat, yada, etc., et al.

As the others have told you - this guy only wants one thing, and it ain't your sparkling wit and personality. Dude is bad news. Put him out of your life and your mind NOW, do not wait, do not pass 'go' and do not speak to him outside the office ever again - then keep any office/business chat to a minimum. Do NOT be concerned with hurting his feelings/ego - he's a big boy, let him deal with it as an adult.

You do not need this and you do not WANT the baggage or heartache that comes with him.

hey evryone thanks for ur wondeful advice, i did not mean to leave this sortive of a post.

i apprechiate yalls opiniosns and repect everyone hear, and i will deff post more i love this site and all u guy...

i knoew from the very bigging that what he wanted, i just thought that maybe i could change that, but i have come to the conclusion that u can not change a man.

we are not really talking.
we talk at work.
and we are texting only as friends nothing going on, i promiser...
i dont want it to sound like i didnt listen to yall.
i did i listened to everyone of yall, but when i turned him down i offered to be his friend, i wanted to be his friend,so we are texting a friends nothing more..

thanks for yalls help...

i will do this... i am fixing to cut all ties...
thanks for yalls help

u sure ur gonna do that?