Days of Our Lives - MESSAGE BOARDS

I returned because I was worried about you all. I didn't want this to start up anything crazy. This is all fine though.

I'm listening, Speechless. And Tune's name comes up as much as yours does, so we try to keep history aside. If we focused on what we did to hurt each other, we'd never move on. I apologize right now to anyone I have hurt here. I'll try to do better - while I am still here. I'm going to get a replacement for me, because this drama's way too unhealthy for me. Just can't do it. But still, I will try.

I think you can trust Tammer, Tune. I think she can trust you. That's one of the few things I'm sure about on this board right now. It's a few others that I wouldn't trust with a ten foot pole. And I agree, trusts have been broken all around. I don't care because I'm just an outsider!! I don't have to trust anyone for them to post here, but I sure wouldn't talk to them beyond the occasional nod on the site. I'm protecting myself, too.

Suzrocks, I do believe you're the most popular poster on this board!

[quote]Quote Chrissi (Admin): I returned because I was worried about you all. I didn't want this to start up anything crazy. This is all fine though.

I'm listening, Speechless. And Tune's name comes up as much as yours does, so we try to keep history aside. If we focused on what we did to hurt each other, we'd never move on. I apologize right now to anyone I have hurt here. I'll try to do better - while I am still here. I'm going to get a replacement for me, because this drama's way too unhealthy for me. Just can't do it. But still, I will try.

I think you can trust Tammer, Tune. I think she can trust you. That's one of the few things I'm sure about on this board right now. It's a few others that I wouldn't trust with a ten foot pole. And I agree, trusts have been broken all around. I don't care because I'm just an outsider!! I don't have to trust anyone for them to post here, but I sure wouldn't talk to them beyond the occasional nod on the site. I'm protecting myself, too.

Suzrocks, I do believe you're the most popular poster on this board![/quote]

Chrissi,
That's funny. I don't know if that's a complement or a curse... It certainly wasn't what I was going for, but I have made A LOT of awesome friends here and that has been very rewarding. Just glad you know the truth about my feelings...etc...

Good posters are leaving? They come, they go, they return, they leave again... same old same old. We always get brand new people in these boards as well. It's not that much of a concern. Half of them were banned anyway, because they can't stop creating new screen names to spam my site with.

I too am talking about the present. It seems like when you and Tune or one of your pals and Tune are in the same thread as her, this 123 stuff comes up. I saw what was posted on that other site about this. They come here to bait her. I've seen stuff on yet another site that shows me they bait her and act all innocent. Your name has come up several times about this. I tell you this because I've "friends" all over, it seems, who want to share what is said everywhere. Careful of who you are trusting because not everyone you meet on a message board is your friend. I like to stay neutral with people because this is just my job. If I wasn't working here, I'd never post. Boards aren't my thing. No time, no interest. I enjoy what most people here write, even though I know exactly who they are, behind the scenes and exactly what they're saying!!

I've said before that email is not safe. Other sites are not safe. If someone plays dirty on a website, no matter which it is, what makes you think they're not going to backstab you?!! That's why I stay away. That's why I've never gotten too involved with anyone.

One of our members here had her emails to anther poster here, and they made it into our inboxes, and half my staff saw them! The things they think are private are not always. And what's sad is that same person comes here, kissing my arse, pretending to be all innocent and thinks that I actually believe in them? ROFL!!! Not bloody likely. Most of these people that I see I do not trust! Still, they are welcomed to post here. It's not about me. This site is not me. I'm merely a reporter who works for this place. I have a life after work that doesn't involve soap operas or what goes on with the board. I don't even discuss this with my husband or family.

At any rate, I'm not sure if this needs to be open much longer. I'll close it soon and we can all start fresh. Me, finding someone else to mind this section of the site, while I get some peace and am able to get some work done.

Chrissi,

I really feel sorry for you that things have been going the way they have on this board. I read all of the time but very seldom post. I love Days and have been watching it for 35 years. I believe that you do a wonderful job keeping everyone who loves the show up to date on what is going on here and you should not be subjected to the kind of attacks that i have seen on your integrity here. You are correct this is your job and you have the responsibility to keep it clean and respectful for everyone and i myself see that you try very hard to do that in a very professional way and i commend you for it. Please keep up the good work.

Chrissi:

Just so you know, I am not here to attack yours or anyone elses administrative styles. I agree that non of us know aht goes on at your end of this. I have tried to reach out to EVERYONE on this board. I have always enjoyed posting with my friends here because I enjoy the updates and spoilers and my lounge thread which has always been near and dear to me.

I know that some people felt it was necessary to trash my lounge thread. I received a really rotten e-mail (from someone I didn't even know) that said ..."It is too bad your mother is dying but we all have problems in life and that is just the breaks." It made me cry that someone would send me such a horrible vindictive email. How would they feel if they were losing someone close to them and then received something like that in email?

I really have to ask myself how a soap opera board can turn into a hate war with others. People like some characters and don't like others...WHO CARES????!!!!

I don't want my name pulled into anymore drama on this board. I would never in a million years be part of a gang war. This isn't high school where people should be forming cliches. I would like to think I know my friends on this board. Sometimes, even I am shocked when I read what is done...very sad. I try to trust and give the benefit of the doubt to everyone, unless they show me otherwise.

Guilt by Association is just an unfair bias!!

Please, once again, leave me out of all of this!!!

The truth always comes out in the end and the person who sent me that hateful email, I really feel sorry for you.

I just want to make this perfectly clear. I have no "beef" with Tune...never did. Do I agree with everything she posts? No. If that makes me a bad person or cyber friend, I'm truly sorry. If I have concerns about ANY post from ANY poster ,I take it to the contact us link and express them there.
This is not the place to air our "dirty laundry".
On that note, I would really love to have everyone on the same page in here. We are here to discuss a fictitious show, not waste our time quibbling over she said she said.
Men are right women are biothes!

Days for live:

Thanks for your words. I used to hear this all the time. I used to find this board easier going. Now I don't and I don't feel easy going when I'm in this board. I can post on any of the other boards on this site and feel great. I actually don't have a responsibility for this board anymore though. I haven't for months. I was promoted and my bosses and I saw how people here couldn't deal with their posts without having me babysit, so I elected to try to stay a little longer and wean people from having me as an admin at all. It's not easy because I've been doing so many jobs, but it's important to me. Go figure.

Speechless:
I've seen these other sites! The copy and paste was a link for me to view. I know what goes down. Don't sugar coat it. The emails I didn't care about, like I said. I was making a point about my lack of trust. Just because someone is allowed to post here does not mean that I trust them. My personal feelings have nothing to do with this small part of the two sites that I run. I could hate someone and they'll still post here for as long as they like, as long as they try to follow guidelines. Remember, this is just a job for me. I do not own this site and I don't post fun. I'd never return if I didn't work here. I love my job, love my sites and I'm really, really good at what I do. I am not, however, patient when it comes to this board, anymore. Some of the issues that you have all brought here this past year have tried me too many times, yet you're all still here and welcomed to stay. Again, all I ask is that people try to follow guidelines. It's funny to me that some of you post elsewhere and are loving little peaches there but the moment you're here there is trouble and you're looking around wondering where it's coming from! It amazes me. Everyone involved is a part of the problem. I include myself in this. I no longer have the patience it takes to take care of the Days board the way that I did before this 123 crapola and other stuff started. Therefore, I am part of the problem, so that's why I am finding yet another admin. It's a good thing, my own decision, based on what is best for my site and my career.

I'm not angry at Tess for her post. True it was nasty and stupid to say, but I was angry that she was a good poster who listened to a sob story from a banned member and then stood up for her, instead of trusting that a huge website caught this poster with two ip addresses spamming it. I'm more angry that there are a handful of people on the Days board who are lying to their so called friends about who they really are. I'm just glad they're not my friends.

I removed Tess because she went against the biggest guideline that there could be on any site. Attacking the person who runs the place. You'd have done the same and let me tell you, I highly doubt if any of you private board owners would have taken her back. Sure, it was a slap in my face, but I was more upset that she was sucked in. I'm sure that your job has it's ups and downs. This was the same thing for me.

If someone was insulted by what I've said to them in the past, they need to be more open about it. Otherwise I can hardly discuss it, no? I've banned people for attacking others, just as I did with Tess. I've asked Tess for an apology and she apologized. I asked her to post it here, but I don't see her. In order for her to return, I think that the board should be aware that she has apologized - by her, so that you can all get in your email and pass it on. (LOL Yeah, I know what happens.) Otherwise, if I allow her to return without it, everyone will think they can say whatever the hell they'd like! I've never thought that it was funny when someone on my site was attacked, either, and I don't recall ever asking someone to get a sense of humour for an attack like this. I may try to keep things light in order to ask people to move on.

Character bashing is allowed on the site, but if someone is going to use it to bait someone, they may as well attack the person. That's just annoying for someone to do and immature, but it doesn't 'get to me'.

Dakota:
Good to see you do not have an email address under your screen name. I've never been one to encourage that. It's an invitation for someone to attack and I've seen it happen a few times. It's also a way for people to lure others over to their own websites and trash mine. I know all about email and that’s why I have someone else replying to people. Using it is a risk. Why do you think I refuse to allow private messaging? Like I need the headaches from that. I hope that this person who wrote you that email reads how it made you feel and I hope they're sitting there feeling like a piece of sh__. I wouldn't cry about it though. Don't give them the time of day! Save your tears for someone more worthy, not some hateful person with nothing better to do than try to make you feel like dirt. And another thing, nobody can make you feel anything. Block them and hold your head up high.

ARE YOU PEOPLE SERIOUS?????

Good Lord! Is this Middle School or are we dealing with adults here? For the Love of GOD get over yourselves. It's a freakin soap opera message board. Oh Suz is the most popular here and so and so said this and so and so emailed me that! If you don't want this kind of attention don't air all your dirty laundry here. Simple...move on....get lives...go volunteer somewhere...you all waste a lot of time here!