Days of Our Lives - MESSAGE BOARDS

Quote holamsa: This is my first day on these boards, and I was so happy to see that there are so many Lucas and Sami fans. I am so tired of the boards overflowing with Ej fans. (I mean, I like the character of Ej for the show, same as I like the Stefano character, but that doesn't mean I want either of them with Sami or Marlena.) Finally, there are some people that agree with what I have been thinking over the last year about the ridiculous pairing of Sami & Ej.

First of all I want to say welcome to the board holamsa. And second I agree with you both, but have one thing to add, when the writers, tried to explain away Ej raping Sami, it is just like slapping rape victims in the face. I was raped in a very similat manner, and was very insulted by this feeble attempt. Rape is rape, and you can`t whitwash it, its always been a violent crime, and always will be. No it`s not blackmail. Blackmail is moreless considered taking money off some one, for hiding information, Ej raped and than blackmailed her also. Blackmailed to keep her quiet. The way this show is now, why would a mother want their young children to watch it. If the show would continue down the road, they may not have any long time viewers, because if I had young children in the house, I wouldn`t want them to see Ej breaking laws and getting away with them for 2 years. Childrens minds are so impressable, they need to see people getting punished for their crimes. JMO.Blin. "Lumi is family"

How Sami could overlook the fact Ej tried to kill so many of her family members, forcing her into sex/raping her, not being willing to help Lucas or anyone else in her family by convincing Stefano to end the Vendetta unless he got what he wanted, constantly butting into her life & threatening her, blackmailing her into divorcing the man she loved & marrying him... I have been so frustrated the last several months thinking everyone was going crazy in accepting that Sami could allow a murderer, lier, torturer, rapist, extortionist/blackmailer...DiMera (in every sense of the name, not by blood or name only like other characters on the show) not only into her home, but also into her family and her bed.

I know Ej has lots of fans, but the storyline is so unbelievable and twisted. As I said, I like Ej, but just not with Sami. He is an excellent villain, and I might like him redeemed, but with someone else like Nicole, Ava or Chloe, etc., just NOT Sami. I was sick to my stomach from the very beginning of it.

I was happy when Sami and Lucas finally got through a wedding, but then disgusted with how their marriage continually seemed to be about Ej. I didn't buy it when she rushed to his side in the hospital countless times, but didn't seem to care about Lucas' recovery after she shot him. What have the writer's gotten the characters into? I have all along, even before the evidence at the cabin or the other suspects were announced, believed that Will was Ej's shooter. Until I saw Stefano's reaction, I even thought he might have arranged it as a way to play on Sami's sympathy, but that happened anyway.

I also have always believed that Johnny being Ej's son was fixed too, since Rolf originally said he was not, and that is something he would not lie about, but something that Ej and Stefano would. I have been upset that Ej never got caught for the murder of Eve Michaels (the police officer) or any of the black gloved crimes, or the attempted murder of John and Lucas or his desire to murder Will or Belle.

How Ejami fans can claim he loves Sami after all he has done to her family and loved ones is beyond me. The only feelings she has ever had for Ej are out of guilt or manipulation. If she knew the true Ej, she would not allow him near her kids, father or not. The fact she does know he raped her and was doing Stefano's dirty work is more than enough for her to stay away from him.

The little apology recently from Ej was a joke and Sami's comparison to what happened between her and Austin was a lame excuse for the writer's to get Sami & Ej into bed. When Sami drugged Austin, she was a self conscious disturbed teenager who had recently been raped herself. She had a huge crush on Austin and wanted him to like her. On the night of the "rape", she did slip something into his drink, undressed and laid next to him, but it was Austin that took off his own clothes and actually initiated their "lovemaking" - he was not forced, he was confused, actually saying "I love you" and performing the act of "love" with Sami thinking she was Carrie. Sami being immature and obsessed went along with it, because it was what she wanted to hear/do. If Austin was not a "willing" participant (just not to the person he was imagining Sami was), nothing could/would have happened. It's not like Sami jumped on top of him with a weapon or threat to hurt Carrie or grabbed his privates forcing him to cooperate (sorry for the graphic description, just trying to make a point).

There is a huge difference in these rapes. Maybe Austin would not have "made love" to Sami (in his mind Carrie) if he wasn't under the influence of the drugs, but Sami did not have a gun like Ej and was not threatening or blackmailing him. She also was not telling Ej she loved him, like Austin did several times to her during the act, which probably confused her even more. I am not condoning what Sami did, but she was a misguided tramatized teen who had recently been abused, convinced that Austin really cared for her (which he did, just not in that way), but Ej was an adult completely aware of what he was doing, knowing that Sami was about to be married and completely in love with Lucas but did not care about hurting her to get what he wanted. Ej knew Lucas' life was in danger. If he truly loved Sami, he would have rushed to help save Lucas' life knowing how much she loved him to earn her trust, not force her to have sex against her will as a condition where timing could have caused him to die anyway.

I'm sure on this particular topic, I don't have to try to convince anyone that Ej and Sami don't belong together which is so refreshing for a change. I do hope all of you are right that have said "true love wins out in the end". I have been hoping for that. I cannot wait for all the nonsense with Ej to be over. His character is supposed to be strong, but with Sami he just looks like a loser. I know Ejami fans say that about Lucas, but at least they have a true healthy foundation and a reason to fight for their relationship. They have been through so much together. They have made mistakes and learned from them, and have made sacrifices for each other, but they have never put each other or their families in jeopardy. Ejami fans say Lucas sent Sami to deathrow, but the truth is he saved her from it. Lucas' anger has always been justified and out of love. Ej has only lied to Sami and manipulated her feelings. Those feelings are not real.

I cannot wait for Sami to finally see Ej for who he is. The writer's are making her look like a fool and unfit mother to trust Ej and Rolf to care for her children(even though I like the actors/characters and Rolf has been endearing, they are criminals who should not be trusted). Like Lucas said Sami' mother and many other family members would have gladly helped out. Why is she trusting people that have hurt her family? This never made sense to me. I hope someone with influence at the show is actually reading these comments and stops trying to make another "supercouple" out of a rapist and his victim. There are too many young girls that watch the show (even older ones and males) that could get the wrong message from this. It's bad enough most guys in situations like this (when they are hot & bothered and want a girl) convince themselves that the girl always wants it. They do not need encouragement frm shows like this making it seem there is hope for a rapist to win over the affection of his victim. Forgiveness, maybe, but love, never.

Please writers (if you are listening) start cleaning up this mess and make Ej pay for all his crimes or at least be found out by Sami. He is a coward that has never taken responsibility for his actions unless it is to manipulate someone. (I don't believe he is sorry about anything he has ever done, and don't believe he helped with John or turned in Stefano out of the goodness of his heart either. Anyone that does is obviously blind or hasn't been watching the show closely.)

I'm sure many of the stuff I mentioned someone probably discussed somewhere on here. I did see some of it, but I only read about the first and last 5 or 10 pages before posting this. Sorry about that. I hope to read more later.

I love Lumi and will never give up hope that someday they will get their happily ever after.

Quote JTsahottie: Hey guys found this video of Lumi. Its new. I needed a good cry. You'll love it and it totally confirms why I love Lumi.
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