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i could not have said it better than eppy, the fact that i can look at them in their little urn, gives me peace, when we adopted my girlfriend's cat, had to give her up when she left her husband and could not have a pet where she lived, when cocoa went to the rainbow bridge, my friend asked me for some of the ashes, it was so emotional for the three of us(my hubby, me, and my friend), then she met an old high school crush on line, they just got married this past spring and she moved to wisconsin, i live in nys, i was glad she was able to take part of cocoa with her
but bottom line, you do what is best for you

Thanks you both. I respect your opinions and know you're both huge animal lovers.
Creamation wasn't even heard of when I was younger and I guess sometimes I have a hard time accepting change but what you say makes sense in the fact of having your pet with you always would be a comfort.
Definitely something to think about.

Well, I have to say, and I hope you all don't think I am feeling sorry for myself - - but because I rescued so many cats (in the past - - no more) I just could not afford to get the ashes. I know what happens to them when you have them put down and leave them there, but I just kept telling myself it was okay - - just like people, I'll see them in heaven?

I have been blessed with the last three that passed because they went peacefully in their sleep, next to me. I was able to bury two in my backyard.

That is the sad part - - I had to move, but right across the street and the house is vacant where I lived before. I still go over there and visit their graves. Have a little marker on for both of them.

The last one I lost, a few month ago, is buried right outside my bedroom window. But, I know some day, if I ever have to move again, before I myself pass, it will DEFINITELY be sad to have to leave them.

I have met a wonderful woman who rescues cats and knows many vets in the area. She has promised to help me the next time, so that I can also bring mine home in a little urn, to be with me.

Going out now to hug some kitties!

lynn- I am sorry for what you are going through with your little one-the death of our beloved pets is one of the most heartbreaking losses I think those of us who love them passionately will ever endure. I was telling eppy -I don't know which is harder, to lose them suddenly, and unexpectedly as she did Murphy,or to watch as they go down hill knowing you lose a little of them every day-either way the result is still the same- you are left with a hole in your heart that never ever completely heals..I have all of my dogs ashes- they will be placed with my ashes when I go- if I knew I would never leave my current home I might consider burial in Maddies Garden (a special garden in our yard designated as a memorial for one of our dogs).
The former founder of the rescue group where I volunteer had a pet cemetery in her yard. All(about 11) of her four legged kids were buried there. She eventually sold her property and moved out of state- She debated long and hard about exhuming them and taking them with her but she decided it was too something and wound up leaving them-Getting rid of the pet cemetery is one of the first things the new owners did - For me the choice is simple-I have them cremated so I can take them with me.This is just something I NEED- It helps me deal with their loss,knowing I can take them with me always-they left huge pawprints on my heart and they will each be remembered with love for the unique and special kids they were- I still NEED to know that if I ever leave here -they will leave in the car with me when I drive away for the last time- It gives me comfort to know they will not be left behind- I know it sounds pretty far out- but all pet lovers who love their pets passionately do understand-

Thanks to you all. You've been so kind and helpful.

A little off subject but I just ran up town and on the way there was a boxer standing in the road and a man directing traffic around it. Comming back, a police officer was there with a woman. The dog was laying on the ground with a pink shirt covering his body. He must have been hit and the officer must have had to shoot it. I think to myself, why didn't I go another way. Just hate seeing things like that. I guess I'm just too tenderhearted when it comes to animals as I know all of you are.

I've had many pets over my lifetime, but the cremation option hasn't always been available - only within the past number of years. Had it been available, I would have considered that option with each and everyone of them. My very first dog was a Collie and she became quite ill. It was wintertime in the Rockies and when my dad and I removed her from the Vets, and since the ground was totally frozen, we took her to a beautiful place on Duck Creek and laid her to rest in the willows. I always thought of her each time I went by that place.

My little friends and I held a full-fledged funeral for a little Banty Rooster one time - we went all out. Music, singing of hymns, shoe box casket, and of all things, a blood offering by letting mosquitos bite us until full, then smacking them and dropping on his little grave. How silly, but we felt better about it.

a friend of mine e mailed me this today and i thought i would share

It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a
piece of my heart with them. And every new dog who comes into my life, gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough, all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are.
~Unknown