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So tonight we had a school dance and this boy that has like me since last year got jelous because I was with another guy.He got mad at me and started yelling that he hated me while I was with this guy.The guy I was with is a foreign exchange student from Spain and is really cute.We were exchanging numbers when 2 freshman girls came up to him asking him what he was doing with me.His response to them was that he didn't know me at all and had never seen me before and the only reason he was talking to me was because he felt "sorry" for me.Which isn't true because he told me that he liked me during choir class on Friday.After that happened I called my dad and had him come pick me up.So now I'm all alone and just not wanting to go back to school on Monday.Do any of you have advice for me.If you do I will truely appreciate it.Thanks.

Don't give it a second thought. They both sound like losers and you are much too pretty to have to worry about having a boy friend. You have to remember that boys don't start being men until they are about 30.

Boys are jerks because it's part of their DNA. And because all the raging hormones get in the way of rational thinking. My son is 11 and I'm bracing myself for the craziness to come. Unfortunately for us girls, it seems like going through this kind of nonsense is sort of a right of passage. But not all boys are jerks. Some boys are genuinely nice. I personally was never attracted to the nice ones, only the ones who treated me like crap because they were a challenge. If you just never compromise your true self, you'll get through it and anything else. The best advice, in my opinion, is "to thine own self be true".

As the mother to a grown (38) son, and I use the term loosly, and married to the same man for over 40 years I will bestow upon you my best advise--- "MEN NEVER GROW UP!!"


NEVER, NEVER, NEVER identify yourself be the people who "like" you especially a boyfriend. It is your responsibility to make yourself happy not someone else!! I know this is hard to understand when you are young but believe me you will be happier in your own skin if you find your own self-worth & don't depend on others for it!!
Good Luck, Sweetie!!

Thanks you guys.I just never expected Jessi to do what he did last night.I've none him for over a year a half and he's never been mean to anyone before.I don't know about Juan though.Maybe it's just how he's going to be.I told my dad about what happened last night though when he picked me up and he was like I want to beat both of them up.LOL.Once again though thank you for the advice.

Gymnast....go for the bookish boys. They are not jerks. Pick someone in Chess Club or a mathlete. Smarts are cool. That is where the good ones are. High School is just a starting point anyway, it is full of angst and trying to fit in and being tormented by your peers. Even if you are popular, there is stress in that too - Images to maintain and such. I don't really think there are many happy high schoolers LoL. The biggest thing is for you to not take anything personally - they have no clue.

first of all, gymnast you are a beutiful, caring and a smart young lady. it is his loss!!!!!! do you remember what i told you when you turned 15. boys only want one thing. you are smart! he did not wanted to be all cool like with the other girls! do not sweat it! you will find your prince my friend!

Now, see, I was going to ask the opposite. Why are teen-age girls so ditzy? They say one thing and do something completely different. My oldest has been tearing himself up over a girl, who hardly gives him the time of day, but turns around and says she'll call him. Then she doesn't. She'd like to go to the movies, but now she works all the time! Don't look at her for longer than 10 seconds because then the boy becomes a stalker! She says yes, but she really means no!

What happened to common sense? When did acting like a Fruit Loop get to be the thing to do? Maybe educators ought to institute a social behavior class for young people. The mind of a teen-ager (boy or girl) is a complicated thing to understand!

I don't get why girls like to act stupid.I don't because it makes me look like a complete idiot.There is this boy that likes me but I don't like him back.He calls me all the time.I've told him I don't like him that way and he is just now starting to figure it out.I'm still nice to him though because I wouldn't want a boy I like who doesn't like me back to be mean to me.The boy that likes me is really nice and sweet I just don't like him that way.I've told him that we can be friends and he said that he would take that so that he could still be around me and I just thought that was cute.

You sound like a girl who has her head on straight. Good for you! Watch out for those boys that are willing to be friends. He will keep his torch going for you. Not saying don't be friends for him, but just keep your guard up.

Yeah.Well,I no longer have to worry about the boys that were jerks to me.The one is moving on so she can deal with his problems and the other boy that has liked me forever told me he didn't want to be with me unless I wanted a "serious" relationship like he did.So I told him that it wasn't going to work out.I was proud of myself because I stood up to him.GO ME.LOL.