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I agree Efizzle I hope that Mommyof1 doesn't leave the site due to this. I am mean she is new and so when you just join a group and have some nastiness go down one would tend to shy away from the whole thing.

I'm not shying away guys I just found out my cousin was killed tonite so when Dakota pulled that BS I was already in a mood.

I"m glad to see you but I am SO sorry to hear about your cousin! Prayers are with you and your family.

oh no, mommyof1. Sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and sending our love.

Yes it's great but I am like you, I keep him grounded. Like after he made his shot, he didn't do any of that celebrating or anything, he ran down the court and got back on defense til the buzzer went off. A lot of his teammates like to ballhog and showboat and that is a no no. And I stress to him education. Because once you get hurt, they have no use for you anymore. He wants to be an Electrical Engineer. His dad is an electrician. He is always hooking up something in our house. Yes make her wear knee pads. Unfortunately for me, I tore 3 of the 4 major ligaments. I got hurt in a game and didn't say anything and just kept going for about another week and one day at practice it just popped. Then I went the entire weekend without telling my parents until I tried to get out the tub and it just gave way. I was in a cast for 3 months!

kiakia, how are your boys this evening? Dakota mad me a litlte mad, could you tell? Ugh, the nerve. Anyway, I am just trying not to think about that.

How is sunny Cali? Been there once. Our family vacationed there and then drove up north through Oregan, Idaho, Wymong, North and South Dakota and then through Colorado. Yea, I couldn't wait to get home. My brother was too, cause one more week with him, I'm sure we could have buried him and no one would have found him... ha! Siblings, whatcha gonna do right?

kiakia, what part of Cali do you live in? I have family there. I'm supposed to go out there in September for my cousin's wedding. They live in Oakland and Richmond. The weather is nuts here in Louisiana. It is 28 degrees. For us southern folks, that is FREEZING!!

Oh wow, that hurts just hearing about it. How is it now? Is it healed? They tell me that it's never the same after an injury like that, is that true?[/quote]

I hurt it hmmm... 17 years ago. My dad refused to let them do surgery. I tried doing sports again (track & softball) but it would always hurt afterwards so I finally quit my senior year in high school. I sometimes get fluid on it and when the weather changes, it hurts to the point where I gotta take pain pills. Plus it pops a lot just because. So it's true, it's never the same but I hear it would've been worse if I had surgery.

I have one daughter, 13, turning 14 by the end of the month. Puberty is a bear.

I have rules and enforced them 2 years ago. My daughter grew fast and I think she is peeking out now, she's about 5'6". She's only grown 3 inches in the last year. 2 years ago, someone told me she looked 15 already, so that's when the rules came out. Besides, with her friends trading boyfriends from one week to the next since 5th grade, we had to make sure she wasn't apart of it. It's only gotten worse and it seems the girls are the aggressors in her age group.

My rules are:

1. Education is #1. Sports can be #2. If for any reason she receives a "C" on a report card, she is not going to allowed to participate in after school activities including sports of any sort until the grade is brought back to a "B".

2. No dating until she is 16, but even at 16 there are no promises, we will evaluate everything then. If we allow her to date at 16, the boy has to be either her age or 1 year older or 1 year younger.

3. No makeup until she is 16. However, I have been lenient on this rule. Every now and then and only when I am with her, she is allowed. I am the only person who does her eye make-up. She isn't allowed to wear it to school.

4. No calls from boys on her cell phone or she will be grounded from her cell phone.... same goes for the internet chats.

5. All rules are subject to change and more rules will be added if needed.

Am I too strict? We have a great relationship, we talk about everything. My friend tells me that I'm too strict and that all these rules are going to bite me in the A$$ one day. I disagree. Right now, she and I are in a place where she tells me everything, plus I know all of her closest friends. He says he was a teenager and he wouldn't tell his mom everything. I told him... like you tell your mom anything now... you aren't close to her and you never were. I don't think he should be judging my relationship with my daughter, because he doesn't know how we are. Of course, I tell her his thoughts and she can't believe he would think that of her. My husband worries too, but his relationship with her isn't as strong and he remembers what he was like as a teen. I feel like I am the only one who respects her and trusts her, I give her the benefit of the doubt. So far, she hasn't given me any reason not to trust her.