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okay we are back from her travel around her world. i have a stone bruise and the walk was a tough one this morning.
well i am hoping that the lack of activity on the site is due to the fact that everyone was having fun!! we had nice weather, no rain and only about 90. the rain started last night and it is forcast for about 40% all week.

having crystal and the kids here was great but between the swimming pool and the running around in the fields gary and i was worn completely out!! the minute they left yesterday gary and i walked in and went straight to bed for a nap!! they had alot of fun in the swimming pool and that ali with her little arm floaties could go anywhere and no fear in her little body at all. and she talks up a storm!! robert never hushed up either. he had more questions than i ever did hear. all in all it was really great and chad and ashley came over for an hour or two. chad is somewhat better from his cold but he is still down with it.

their has been some shocking news from pensacola and you might have seen it on the news. the parents of the 12 adopted kids were shot to death. it is really horrifying. beulah is only 15 miles from mom and dad. we all know the place well and daddy knows the father of the children. they found the van only 3 miles from mom and das house. the have been interiewing 3 suspects of interest, the whole house has survielance and it was all captured on the tapes. i haven't checked todays news but i hope they are gonna arrest these people. the said their ages were late teens early twenty's. any way if you want to read about it go to the Pensacola news journal. we also have some nut running loose down here. the big suwannee farms located behind our property, 1600 acres large, well they have a really nice migrant motel looking thing, which is apartments. two 30 year old mexicans got into a fight and one stabbed and killed the other one. the bad guy ran off into the woods so there is a look out for him. we have ypped the security around here. i am not too worried because he knows he will get spotted if he comes out of the woods. i don't know if they caught him yesterday or not. i will check the sherriff's in a little while. so seems like there was a lot of heartache over the weekend for some families. daddy has been doing good since last chemo, none this week. mom said he had a really good appitite but yesterday he stopped eatng again for some reason and has been sleeping mostly. we will be leaving saturday morning and i will probably be gone another month. chad and ashley are going up this weekend also. i will keep yall posted by phone when i go.

okay,enough about me, how are yall doing. maryann i am glad yu are feeling better but that chest cold might lingere for a while so watch yourself. good idea about susie. i wil try again today. i did email her over the weekend. we might need to prepare ourselves for some bad news though. susie was very sick. hope all is ok though.

auntiep, my goodness i am so sorry sarah is so sick, change doctors or train this one. sometimes you have to train your doctors! i don't understand why she won't eat, is it because the cough medicine makes her sleepy or is it the taste...?? try having her eat before you give her the medicine. call the pharmacist if you have anyquestions about one medicine effecting the other, they know more about meds than the doctors and if they find something wrong then it is their responsibility to call the doctor to get something else. believe me the pharmacist enjoy doing this too, kinda shows the doctor up. keep us updated, and your brothers idea is good. you try to lay down when you can, atleast when sarah lays down. you might not kwant mom and dad to come home right now for fear of them catching what she has got. can you have them go somewhere else for a while? love you auntie!!

hello ny, so glad that you are home noe. i have missed your posting, i love it when you post. i always feel so uplifted. thank you for that joy. i am sorry your daughter is upset about being away, maybe by today she has settled in more. the more sightseeing she does i think the better she will feel. tell her not to trust those italian boys though. she is only 13 no matter how old those harmone boys think they are. tell them her uncle is tony soprano and he ain't dead!! only kidding, hope she has the time of her life, and i hope she uses the journal you gave her. what a wonderful idea. thanks for the kind words about daddy, i am savoring every moment. this is the most difficult thing i have ever had to go through, and you know i have experienced alot. this is rough. but i am thankful for the time we have now. i am also re connecting with my mom in a whole new level. we have always been close but now it seems that i am being a care giver to her also and she is for once accepting it. let us hear from you....smiles...

gvalie, we should be hearing from you soon. hope your weekend was good since he was gone most of it. look in the paper and see if there is anyone who wants a room mate. that is probably the only way to go. then cut it out and put it on his pillow or chair or somewhere. he would be able to afford moving out then. you had said that your second job was about to end. what will you do next do you know. if he stays in the house get him to pay you the amount you make from your second job. tell him he is the reason you have to get a second job and if they lay you off he has to pay you unemployment. that would be a hoot!!! sweetie i know you are probably sick of our advice but at least we try and sometimes we even make you laugh!! we love you so much.

roe, roe, roe your boat gently down to the pal riverway ...merrliey merriley merriley merriley we are hoping you come our way. okay, no applause please! hey gal, we miss you. stop ironing those shirts and give us a holler. today is monday and you probably need a break from the weekend. today will be called monday lounge day. only thing you can do today is maybe wash. but no ironing today!!! JOKING WITH YA!! i miss you. crystal has messed up all my email stuff we had going so i will have to figure everything else out and get it back on there. we do not invite her to do these things. she gets on it to do something and then she messes everything up. she does clean it up and fix problems but in the process we loose alot of of stuff she says is just added junk. she means well and i do appreciate the clean up. i can't explain what all she did because i don't know the logo. it is faster now.

okay now, i have really run my mouth alot. i have no incoming email so i think i will compose a few then check out the news. i will be watching here though. love yall, raggsies

Good morning everyone, yes it is me, shocking I know. I am sorry I have not been around. Sorry I have no idea what is going on with any of you and I hope you all will forgive me.

It was hard to get back into things after my trip to Hilton Head Island, she missed it so much that I couldn't function. Plus, my kids being home, they are on the computer all the time, they each take one and they play games together and then they call up one of Joey's friends and they are all on together. It's really crazy, I yell at them to go outside and play. Now, the boy up the block, he wants to play with the boys but he is only 7 1/2yrs old but they have been playing with him in the evening when his parents come home from work and 2 other girls until around 10pm at night. It's ok but in the day, I have to get them to do stuff. Michael has gymnastics camp at 12pm today and I am dragging Joey out with me and taking him to lunch.

Yesterday, my sister came over to see my dad, he leaves tomorrow with my brother to Vegas. Mom will have peace and quiet for 4 days and already she is asking me what "we" are doing. I am going into the city on Thursday. I am having Michael tested to make sure he is growing properly. I think he is but he is tiiny still and Joey is almost passing him up and I just want to make sure all is ok so I am taking him to a specialist on Thursday, I forgot what they call that kind of doctor. I am taking the bus, not in the mood to sit in traffic and now the new thing at the parking garage, they charge extra if you own a minivan, extra $10 so it would cost me $30 to park or more.

Raggies, actually, I am going to iron this morning. We leave on July 27th for Disney so I want to start ironing Mike's clothes, since he wears a uniform to work, he doesn't need to wear his shorts, etc. Then next week, I will iron mine and the boys. Hope dad is doing better today.

NYDRAMA, wow, I am so jealous, daughters in Italy. I will get there one day. Maryann, hope you are feeling better. GVAL, did that divorce ever go through? Has Susie been online? If there is anything I missed, just sum it up briefly for me please. In the meantime, have a wonderful day everyone. I will try and get the computer again sometime today.

good morning ladies, i was just finishing my post and i got blown out.
auntiep just saw the posts i agree with maryann you need a vapizer or what you cant do is trun the hot water on in the bath room let it get steamy . that should help break up the mucus and see if you are able to change doctors.
maryanne glad to hear you are feeling better.
raggsies i glad to hear you dad is doing okay after treatment and you and your mother are bonding she is going to need your support. so the kids had you guys on the go, i bet you loved it but it is always nice wehn copany goes home, its funny how we get into a routine.
hi roe glad to hear from you. dont worry about michael he is fine before you know it he will be taller then you.
well ladies saturday i asked hubby when he is moving out he finlly told me he is not sure because he cant afford it. well before last saturday it was fine we talkied you would never would know he was suppose to move out. well now i will not speak to him he trys to talk to me and i give him one word answers. what did he expect after what he pulled. what ever respect i had for him is gone. and now he tells me he cant afford to move out he has to save money. what did i tell him from the begining. he still had it good in the house now he blew everything out of the water. well it is his own fault. and my temp job is over and i am back looking for another part time job. raggsies i am never sick of getting advice from my firends you girls are helping me more then you know and i am stll laughing with what alfie and auntiep told me to do. so ladies please tell me what you think.

wll gval that is a hum dinger of a response from him!!so he is putting off "his dreams" because he can't afford it. has he really tried to work something out on the outside yet!?! so you are suppose to forgive and take him back? gosh how confusing he is. he has put into motion alot of hurt and anger. he has said some real awful things. is he renigging on all of that like, baby i really don't feel that way, or is he just sitting around feeling sorrow for himself, and wanting you to feel sorry for him, because he can't afford a new life. wake up teenager boy!!! life has its up and downs and if you want something bad enough (to even leave your family over) then you got to get out there and huff and puff and get it done. he could have took on a part time night job and would have had enough money saved up by now to pay all the initial moving expenses. i still think there is still one big huge secret he is keeping. pretty soon that other shoe will drop because no one in their right mind would announce to their family that they are breaking it up so he could have another "new life" without yall and then what? he had no plans laid out!!! ohkay enough venting from me...i love it when you vent because atleast i know you are getting it out.

roe, guess i will do some work too since you are doing work. i would feel guilty if i didn't do anything except lounge around. guess we will be out of town at the same time. i don[t know when i am coming back. probably in a month if everything is going about the same.

i did hear on the news everyone, from the computer, that they have arrested 3 in the pensacola thing and they are more arrest to make. i hope they get them all.

oh kay who else needs to check in....oh mary ann you who where are you......????

hi raggsies didnt i tell you we couldnt afford this and i kept asking him are you sure you can afford this and he told me yes. so even though we were living in the same house and me and the boys were waiting for him to leave we were friendly to each other. but since last saturday everything has change. he blew it, he would of been able to stay at the house and i wouldnt of bothered him but now i cant stand looking at him. i am treating him the way he use to treat me when he came home.my oldest son was asking me why would he start this when he cant move out. now i think of him as my biggest mistake.

gval, i feel so bad for you. please don't look at it as it was your biggest mistake, that makes you sound like you feel defeated. things will get better and i know you can't figure that out now. you really have to look at this was the best gift in a way, now you know before you get too old that he really isn't into it for long as your lives may live. i would rather know where i stand before i get to a point in my life where i couldn't make choices. it is hard, remember me and alot of the girls have been there but i know how lonely this can be. you actually are doing wonderful considering everything. how assertive can you be with him, like demands or ultimatiams. i still think he needs to go to a doctor, in order for him to understand what is happening to him or atleast so he can get an outsider to look inside his scrambeled brain. that would be a stickler with me in order for him to stay day to day until he can find means to leave. that doesn't mean you care or want to work something out. it just sorta starts a paper trial of him being a nutcase. so to speak.

RAGGSIES john is never happy with what he has he is always looking for something and when he gets it he is bored with it and starts to look for something else but now it is three peoples lives that are effected by him. now he got his wish whether he wants it or not. he is free he doesnt have a wife and when he moves he could see his sons when they have time for him. and once he is able to afford to move out then he could go find someone else. i am alright i really am but i get my down times when i let myself think about him but then i say no no way i refuse to let him win by that i mean he was able to hurt me. no more and you are right i have a life ahead of me that doesnt include him.

its a shame that those kids did that. did they say why?

Im glade all of you all are ok.
Gval, you are a WOMAN!!. you deserve to be LOVED !! RESPECTED!! WANTED!!. you are PRECIOUS!!. Jesus wrote YOUR
NAME on his hand.Angels will carry you to heaven ,wraped up in LOVE.

if he doesnt understand this!! then he needs some peace be steel.

Im so glade you think the youtubes are funny.

Hi girls!
I did absolutely nothing yesterday but rest and relax! hee,hee,hee... for real! It has been non stop for me for quite some time and this weekend was my sons b'day (9) so we had a party for him celebrating his and my sisters b'day. We had a great time, but I'm exhausted! Missed everyone but now I can catch up.

Raggs-You must be psychic! I spoke to my daughter this morning and she sounds so much better! I can't tell you how hard it is for me to let her go for 1 month, and then have her feel so bad. It was a gift for me to hear her voice so much lighter and happy w/details of events. Yesterday, my cousins took her and my mom to visit Pompeii (the ancient ruins of the town that was buried during a huge volcanic eruption) She was fascinated and full of details. She is starting to loosen up and enjoying the company of my wonderful family and the beauty of Italy. She is raving about all the fresh, home grown fruits she's been eating. And of course, she's enjoying the gelato (Italian icecream). It is delicious! I hope to speak to my mom when I call again. She always sounds so much happier when she's there. I love hearing her like that.
Your Dad is one courageous person! No matter what, his choices are what's important. We all know what we want, but they need to make decisions that will affect their lives. It's difficult when those decisions don't match ours. Time w/him, is a precious gift. I am not going to linger on the negative, you already know that stuff. I am going to be happy for you that God has given you this extra time w/him and your mom. Time is something we sometimes take for granted, but should cherish. I lost my father suddenly and he was only 66, but I was so grateful for the time I was given w/him, even if it was short. I was grateful for the memories, for the life lessons that I would take w/me forever. I miss his personality, he was strong willed, sociable, outgoing,laid back, straightforward, honest and wonderful to talk to. But, these are things I am grateful to have had and continue to be thankful to have been raised by a parent like this. He wasn't perfect, trust me, but he balanced the dynamics between he and my mom. She's very different. After losing him, is when I understood all of this. But, thank God I could spend the time I had w/him, share my kids w/him, even for a short time. I have pictures around my house so I can always look at his face. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I talk to him and sometimes I smile right back at him. We are lucky to have fathers like this. You never stop having him as a father. That's something that I tell people. I love talking about him, hearing others talk of him. Just because he's not here physically doesn't mean he he's no longer my father. I make sure to always talk about him to my kids especially. I celebrate him whenever I can, especially at the annual feast we have after Easter. For now, just be w/him, that's all. Continue to make him smile and share your many delightful stories of your daily life. That will distract him and make him feel normal. Plus, it will help you not to focus on his condition. NOne of you need to remind yourselves of that part. I feel the same way you do about that disease. I lost my favorite aunt by it. She was only 46 (my fathers baby sister) Who could figure it out? I know there have been many advances, so I'm happy about that. But it's harder when it's found too late. My girlfriend called me right before we left for vacation to say her dad had just passed away from it. He was just diagnosed and died w/i a month! It was crazy. He's all she had left. Her mom died when she was just a baby and she has no siblings, no hubby and no children. Let me tell you something else, having family around is the best medicine. They truly help us in so many ways. Thank God for friends too!! So, go and enjoy your precious time and live, laugh and love!

Gval-you are getting such great advice from this panel of ladies! It's cracking me up too!!!! Yeah, we figured it would be a big endeavor financially for him, right? Bad timing on his part, but what gives? I think Raggs has a point, maybe there is something he's not telling you. Meanwhile, what nerve! I hate that you are going thru this, and the kids. It's unfair to all of you. He made his bed, so he needs to lie in it. HE's a big boy, making his own decisions and needs to stand up to his responsiblities. He wanted it, he wrecked a family, he needs to clean up his own mess. He needs to own it. Atleast, he owes that much to set the right example for his kids. Look, in the middle of all this, I really, really hope you don't lose what you want. Keep your focus on you and the kids and remember where you stand. You are a smart, capable, independant woman who loves her kids and will not be taken for a ride either. You didn't ask for this, he did. He can't ping-pong back and forth w/your feelings, just because he's not in a financial situation to accomodate his decisions! That should not be your problem, only his. HE wants out of the marriage, he needs to get out of the house. This ping-pong stuff is crazy and not healthy for any of you. Could you imagine doing that to him? I don't think so. Remember to take care of yourself, do things that make you smile, laugh and feel good. You can't afford to let yourself down, like he's done. You've got to live your life how you want to and have no regrets. As much as he may feel like a mistake to you, RAggs is right, don't look at it that way. You got 2 wonderful, amazing sons out of this. That is a precious, precious gift from God. See, there's always something we could be grateful for, no matter how bad things are. Right? I am so happy that you can find support here w/all the girls. You will be fine, I know it.

MA-hope you feel better soon! Flu takes it's time to go, so just keep hydrated and rest. The weather has been beautiful, hope you are enjoying the outdoors a bit, or sitting by the window. It was quite breezy this weekend too. I have been so out of my schedule, I haven't even watched my GH in atleast 2 weeks! I'll be happy to get back into my groove now that my schedule looks more relaxed.

Roe-another vaca in the not so distant future! Good for you! I know you worry about your son, you'll feel better once you do get him checked out, no matter what we or anyone else says, right? When puberty age hits, it's amazing to look at the local middle schools (like my daughters) anad see how differently each kid is growing. You see tiny boys and huge, football type boys, you see baby soft skin and you see some w/facial hair, the girls that are tiny w/boyish figures and the ones who are va-va-voom! It's a crazy time for all of them, I'm sure. My cousins were all small, and then in high school they shot up to about 6ft!!!!! Just never know when it happens or how. My boys seem on the small side too, but who knows!
My daughter is petite and slim, and trust me, even she complains!

Hugs to all my pals!!!!!

HI NY i glad to hear your daugther is enjoying italy. i remenber going to greece for the first time i was sixteen. my first inpression was get me back to the states but when it was time to leave i didnt want to go. and that is the way it is going to be for your daugther. its about time you are taking it easy. enjoy the day. and i want you to know come september i am going to take a vacation. for about a week i am going to my girl friend house in lancaster pa. she has been after me to go visit her but hubby never wanted to go so since i have no hubby i am going. i havent had a vacation in seven years. i dont count when my dad died and i had to go to greece. if he is still in the house he could watch mitchell and i will take my birds to a bird sitter. i dont trust hubby with my birds. the birds are the only gift i am keeping that he gave me. other wise as i go thru the house and i find anything he gave me goes into the garabage. yeaterday was stuff animals he gave me. i am cleaning house.

alfie, hey there, gval sent me those youtube video's too and i was cracking up watching them. i have never seen that charactor before.

the kids, are you talking about the ones i mentioned, a total of 16 living children, their parents were killed. today they arrested a 4th guy and they are looking for atleast 4 more, all caught on the tape. they said it was a planned robbery and that there was other motives but the are still looking into all of that. go to Pensacola news journal,com or wear tv,com and they have alot of coverage on it. the are comparing it to the movie "in cold blood" in some ways. funeral for the mom and dad is thursday.

hey gval, just curious, has he noticed that you are throwing away stuff? wonder what he thinks if he sees stuff in the garbage cans? hee haw hee haw!!

new york lovely, it is 12:37 am and i can't sleep yet. your post has really made me feel at peace. you always make me feel that way. i hope at times that i maybe help you feel better about some things. my wish is that i contribute to some of the positive and loving emotions all you gals have.
i knew your daughter would feel better once she got out to site see. she may want to comeback and be an archeologist. would you believe that was my minor in college. we use to go to these sites and have a "dig in" over the weekend. it was so interesting. i am not familiar with italy, are there a lot of "wonders of the world" there?

GVAL i always wanted to go to greece ever since i saw this movie and now i cant think of the name!!

ny i share your thoughts about our dads. this past weekend was the blue angels red, white, and blue shows, from mom and dads side porch they watch them practice every wednesday. since the economy went bad they are usually only allowed to practice onece a week unless they have a show coming up. mom said the other day dad sat on the porch to watch the practice. i believe i have mentioned to yall that my dad is retired from the navy and his civil service job after that was he was the mechanical supervisor of the blue angels. daddy has flown with some of the guys before years ago. i am so glad that he was able to see them practice and he did watch some of it on tv. mom said he had tears n his eyes. those memories i will cherish. i have pictures of daddy with the planes and the crews over the years. pensacola has a wonderful naval museum and they have the actual planes in it. it is a wonderful fieldtrip.

gals maryann has been sleeping alot with her cold so i know that is why she is somewhat MIA. hugs (with a mask on my face!) goes out to you kiddo! hope you are feeling better tonight and sleeping peaceful. yall do know the swine flu is back on the east coast again, one person in jacksonville , fl. died the other day. i have not heard from chad today so i don't know how he is doing but i am sure he will call tomorrow.
okay, i am going to read the gh updates from today. our satellite company is still trying to re wire everything in our area. be glad when that is fixed, they said any day now. rained heavy today so that doesn't help. even our pool pump cords got so wet they kept throwing the breakers.
love to all of you...sharon, raggsies friend