Soaps.com - MESSAGE BOARDS

good morning ladies, i hope everyone had a good weekend. mine was quiet and i like it like that. has anyone hear anything from susie?
alfie i am sorry to hear about autums low life ex, but i cant belive they would give someone like him probation and he goes out and hurts a child. i hope they catch him and put him back in jail and throw the key away. i would like to see other stuff done to him but i will be pinked slip. any one that hurts a child should suffer. tell autunm to keep close on on her children and to stay strong. hopefully the town wont say anything in front of the children.

hey gval, goodmorning. i am going to try susie around lunch time. i will let you know if i hear from her. glad you had a quiet weekend. you are not doing too much are you? i know two jobs is rough. i have been there. see ya later i got to make some chicken salad.

Happy Monday, gals. Hope everyone's Father's Day was pleasant. I went to my mentee's grad party during the afternoon and had a great time. She gave me a 5x7 of her senior picture. It is beautiful. She's a lovely young woman now.

My car is behaving (so far). My brother is coming from TX and will arrive in Boston on Friday with his daughter. He was invited by Harvard Univ. to speak at an educational symposium next Mon. and Tues. He called me yesterday morning and said he wanted to drive down from the airport and take me to an early birthday dinner and then they'd head over to R.I. so they could start looking at some colleges for Nancy on Sat. Then, they'd work their way back to Boston on Sunday.

I suggested that we meet in the middle in Sturbridge, MA. and have dinner and spend the night there at the Publick House, an historic old New England inn. He loved the idea as it will save him a couple of hours of driving time and we can have a longer visit than just a dinner would have afforded us. He said he'll pay for my room as part of my birthday gift. What a nice brother! I can't wait to see them. Nancy has been in the Navy ROTC program but she's now talking about joining the Marine's. My brother and his wife are NAVY people. I think they were hoping she'd follow in their footsteps. We'll have to see which side wins out.
Either way, she'd get her education.

Well, that's all the news for now. Hope you all have a great week.

Love, M.A.

hi, yes Autumns kids have been kept safe.she has had to tell them small parts of it.she has to be very carefull on exactly what she says.I havent even told Daniel. he thinks ricky is on the run because of child support.ricky was on probation for burglary of a store.

Im glade you got to spend time talking to your dad.

gav im glade your car is working.

autumn has talked to the cops down there.I have called the jails up here. and talked to the cops up here.Im doing all that I can up here.

Good evening ladies, I finally got the computer today at 9pm. Kids are off from school so both of them each have the computer. Hope everyone had a nice Father's Day or at least a nice weekend. My family was over yesterday and the rain didn't come until after we had finished barbaquing so that was nice. We had desert inside.

Ok, where do I begin about Saturday? Everyone sitting down relaxing? Here goes my crazy story again...first, Michael had a soccer game in the downpour of rain, half the kids didn't show up and we lost 5-0 which was really a shame because if our whole team was there, we could have won. Anyway, we were all soaked from that huge downpour.

At 7pm we had to be in Atlantic City for my friend Lauren's 40th birthday party. We went to this restaurant called The Melting Pot across from Ceasars(those who know Atlantic City) Anyway, this place was a fondue where first they have cheese, then salad, and then the main course and desert. It was all dipping in junk, it was awful.There was barely any food and all her friends where complaining that they were hungry afterwards. We didn't get out of there until 12:30am can you believe that? We went to the Borgata to gamble but I started feeling sick. We stayed for an hour and I couldn't take it anymore, I just made it back to my room before I got sick. I was in the bathroom from 2:30am until around 5:30am in so much pain. So much for a romantic night with the king size bed. I was so upset as was Mike not because I was sick but because she dragged us all the way there and the food was awful and everyone was still hungry. Mike said we would go back another day. We left on Sunday and got home at 11:30am which was ok but I still didn't feel myself all day.

Today, I ironed Mike's clothes most of the morning and now tomorrow I have to do mine. We leave for Hilton Head on Saturday and I have to get things done. I can't wait to get out of here.

goodmorning everyone. gosh roe, i hope you are feelingbetter. in jacksonville there is a "melting pot" too. crystal and ohn went there when i was living with them and at 3am i had to drive her to the hospital. coming out both ends, deathly ill from food poisioning. she said she would never set foot in a fondue place again. that is something you might want to do at home not out on the town. i do not blame yal for being upset. yeah!! saturday will be here soon. i hope yall have a wonderful time. we are suppose to get rain this weekend, maybe, for several days. we really need it. i will be leaving thursday am for pensacola so it looks like it will be a while before i am back onsite but crystal said she is bringing her laptop so if that works i will check in. you, roe, relax relax relax. don't yall "plan" too much on trip. just do whatever comes up. the kids will love the beach no matter what. i wish yall could come over to the gulf coast sometime. blue clear water and white sand. destin is a beautiful place if yall want to ever check it out. check out destin beach on the computer.

i am ging to eat a bit, and wake meghan up and then i want to share something with everyone today that god hasbrought back to my memory again. it is a good "strength" story about what we as women can overcome and how strong we are and how mightly god is. hope yall don't mind but i really feel the need to tell yall about an incident in my life, when i was terribly injured, and how i progressed out of it. stay tuned...be back in a few.

good morning ladies,
this morning around 645 am i get a call from work after i get over the shock it was a co worker telling me that the rd i work was close to come a different way. but when i got to work i come to find out that our ford dealership which they closed in february burnt to the ground there is nothing left to the building. they think it may be arson. i cant see it they are working on our next store building to bring our nisson line over here. maybe some one left something on who knows but we will find out soon enough.
roe i am so sorry you had such a bad time saturday it sounds as if you got food posioning. well put it behind you. this weekend you leave for vacation and i hope you have a wonderful time, you deserve a relaxing vacation.

my goodness gval, that is horrible. the economy woes of ford did not need that. thankgod no one was there but what a waste. i am sure the firemarshal is all over that. they usally can find out fairly soon if it was arson. was there any "product" in the building. hope not. insurance was still in effect i hope. is your dealership doing ok financially? i haven't heard latly and i was wondering. if it ain't one thing it is another. keep us posted.

Good morning everyone. Jeff finally got home around 2pm Fathers Day. So instead of going to my sisters for a get together because he was so tired from being up 27 hours straight. I cooked out and made him ribs and all the fixins. He had off yesterday so we went and bought Erin a Step2 Story Book playhouse. She spent all day in there.

I'm so excited because Jeff told me he's taking leave from July 1st-23rd. We planned last night that we're going to take a road trip to the Baltimore Aquarium. We even might spend the night.

Roe sorry to hear about that. My Aunt went there and got sick also. I won't be eating there now. We usually go to the buffet at the Taj Mahal.

Gval I'm so sorry to hear about the dealership, a couple of weeks ago an Exxon gas station on RT38 Lumberton exploded. The whole entire place desinegrated. It was in the middle of the night so thank god know one was hurt.

I'm going to get Erin cleaned up from breakfast and let her go out and play before the rain comes.

ladies, this morning during my prayers god brought an incident that i livied through to my mind again. in some ways it comes to my mind everyday. not really in a bad way, just showing me that i am strong and i really can get through anything with god in my life. truly he will not put anything on us that we can't bare with him in our lives. i am going to keep it as short as possible but it will take a few paragraphs. i have shared this incident with roe before and sometimes it is helpful for others to hear it. i want to share this with yall not for pity and i'm sorry's, i want yall to draw strength from it. alot of the things i learned back them are helping me now and i hope if might help you too.

in 1992 i was traveling to see my parents on thanksgiving weekend. i was traveling alone because daddy had just recently gotten out of the hospital after his first heartattack. the kids were at home with their daddy. i had worked right up to 5pm wednesday so i left right after work on wednesday and stopped halfway there in kinda a small town at a nice hotel to spend the night and i would drive in the next morning feeling fresh. i got into the room and went to sleep pretty much immediatly. what i did not know was that they had fired the maintenace man earlier and had not gotten his master key and gotten all the door knobs changed over. i did have the lock on my door but the bolt up top was broken but the door was locked. the first thing i realized something was wrong was when someone jumped on my bed. i stated screaming and suddenly i flet alot of pain in my right breast. there was a huge struggle that landed us on the floor. i was beaten, raped, sodimized, and stabbed 16 times on my arms, neck, chest, and a few slits on my legs. somehow i ended up in the bathroom with this man trying to rape me again and then the door flew open and a police dog was on top of that man in minutes. deputies everywhere and the man screaming. my next memory is of a medic talking to me and telling me that i was going on a helicopter ride and that he would be with me. i remember several other scenes, mostly like flashes. i don't remember anything in the er, had 6 1/2 hours of surgery. my first memory was about 3 weeks later. i suffered huge blood lost had over 500 stitches in my body, had basically no breast and had tubes everywhere. i remember ralph saying somethin glike my chest looked like a road map and he had disgust on his face. i had never seen that look before. i stayed in the hospital and later rehab for 3 months, was able to testify at his trial and during a civil suit, all thanks to my daddy. he made sure that i was always protected legally. he hired a lawyer for me for the civil suit and he did most of the leg work. my mom took care of the kids in pensacola. rlph worked, and visited me only 2 times while i was in the hospital. he told me that my looks just disgusted him and he didn't think he could get over it. i stayed a total og 8 months away from home and when i got home he had already started having an affair on me, as i was to learn later. so much for him...

the maintenace man who had been fired was robbing alot of rooms that night and i think he thought my room was vacant. he got 25 to life for rape, sodimy, attempted murder, and robbery (he had my necklace in his pocket). it was all a mess. then came the civil trial against the hotel company and i had to do alot of depositons. that seemed even worse because i had to talk to strangers about all my disabilites from it and emotional distress.

well this is where i got my rsd but i also got a new set of boobs. my arms were sliced and stabbed so much that we all knew i would have alot of trouble later in the years ahead. by the way, i had a bad infection in my left nipple and i received a nipple from a pig. no, i don't onk..well maybe sometimes!! i fought hard, learned to walk with hardly any strength, and basically just got myself well. i went back to work 2 years later through a disabilty program at goodwill. i knew i could never go back to my horticulture position. several weeks after i got home i caught my ex in bed with my best friend and 3 weeks later she committed suicide. i divorced ralph amd paid him off $150,00.00 to shut him up. he just wanted some of my money in the end.

i have ad to endure alot of forgiviness in my heart, i had to make peace with god, and i had to start another new life with 2 children. it was all so overwelming but looking back it was easy because i always kept my faith. i never felt abandoned.

after 13 years that guy got out on an early release program. i had been to 2 parole meetings before. his mother was dieing and he was the sole surviour. back then the overcrowding at the prisons were bad so if you didn't kill someone you were going to be set free. i had a lifetime restraining order on him but was concerned that he would seek me out one day, and he might because the restraining order has to have my address on it. (what a weired way to do things). that is one reason i dont want to have face book etc...even though i am sure i probably would be protected. i am just overly cautious.

i would have never met gary if this had not happened, i would have never savered life if this had not happen, i would have never been able to feel the need to be compastionate to alot of people had this not happened. there are so many great, fantastic things that came out of this that there is really no reason to look at it like this ruined my life. instead it gave me LIFE!!!!

okay, i just felt like sharing that story with yall. hope in someway it might have rang some bells with some of you that are struggling with god, or things in your life. we are all strong women, and with our lord in our life we are so powerful. yes we hurt still and grieve still, but we live still. we succeed and move forward and good things come our way. they say that bad things do happen to good people but also good things come out of bad things. thank yall for letting me share this with you.

love, raggsies

just wanted to say hello to you mommy. haven't talked to you in along time,. glad jeff is home and whoopie!, what a nice leave he has. ali loves her indoor play houses too and her kitchen stuff. she got a barbie jeep from a friend of crystals and robert rides her all around in it. it had only been used once and it looked brand new and they had to move and she bought it for $100.00! have fun on your trip, i heard that place is real neat. take care

RAGGSIES LIKE I TOLD YOU ON THE PHONE YOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL LADY AND I AM SO VERY HAPPY TO KNOW YOU. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION.

mommy i so happy to hear that jeff made it home for fathers day. erin must be so happy with her new house she will stay busy for a while with her house. and how are you ?

you are too gvalie, we are all inspirations to each other.

Hi Ladies,

Raggs-I am so shaken and don't even know how to begin. Your story has left me in a state that I haven't felt before. I am crying for you, my friend. I am so sorry that you had to endure such horrors. I just wish I could hug you right now! Why do things like this happen? It angers me to no end! I hate that men can be so evil, cruel and heartless. You definitely have proven, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are one very, very strong person. The courage and strength you needed to go thru such a thing and then your ex throwing that crap? Bless you, bless you, bless you! Thank God for your wonderful family, and your loving father. You are a very special woman, and obviously God wanted to keep you here so you can spread your wisdom. Faith and forgiveness are 2 things that many of us question. You have come so far and healing is still going on. Thank you for sharing w/us. It must be a difficult story to tell. How are your kids? I pray God continues to bless all of you and that each day seems brighter and full of hope. May you always be surrounded by beauty.

I need to re-group, but I will come back later.
hugs to all

ny, mercy honey i didn't want to upset you at all. i am so sorry. i do appreciate the loving thoughts though. don't dwell on it because i don't. my message to yall was for everyone just to hang in there, things do get better. about 2 to 3 times a year i talk to a victims group in gainsville. they call and request me and i go. i don;t seek it out. god just lays it on my heart i guess when someone might need to hear that message. my kids are doing great. chad is working at his new job and doing wonderful and crystal and the kids will be in today. i just go word that daddy isn't doing too well today because he didn't eat or drink much yesterday. i just want him to hang on if he can until i get there thrusday. he isn;t really in any pain because of all the meds right now. i will call later on tonight. we havemade all the funeral arrangemens and such. he will have one military funeral in pensacola and one in alabama at our family plot.

hope your kids are well and not driving you crazy. i am ging to take a short nap and then i will be back. i honor you for being such a wonderful person and a fantastic mother. love, raggs