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Gval cook a nice diner and sit down with your kids, when he comes to sit down to eat tell him that he has to eat somewhere else his place at the table is no longer available. Maybe this would give you enough satisfaction that you could eat the whole meal.
Have you ever watched NCIS with the very good-looking Mark Harmon. He bops the people up the back of the head every time they do something he doesn't like. Try that on him. I have done it to some of my family. They get the message.

Hi Auntiep- Do you have a friend/neighbor you can ask for help? If family is not there for you, sometimes a friend could step up for you. I guess if your family already knows and understands your current circumstances, than I really cannot understand how they wouldn't give you a helping hand when you need it most. Not even one? That's just crazy! You are definitely NOT being childish, you are only acting out of frustration. As hard as this may be, I want you to believe that someone will come to help you. It won't hurt, it will just make you feel better and trust in God and people. Never give up. You are in a bad mood and of course everything else will seem to get you down. That's how it normally works, right? You need to turn that all around and believe that Sarah will feel better, someone will take you to sign for the trailer, your car will get fixed, your mom will eat and you will get new glasses too. You can't possibly figure it all out on your own, just believe that God will help you and leave it up to Him. If you sit there and go over all the things you don't have and all the things that are going wrong, it will not improve your circumstances, nor will it make you feel any better. You have nothing to lose when you take that power from within and just believe, really believe that everything is ok. You have it in you. We all do.
Life is a gift, sometimes we forget that-especially when things go sour. That's why we have friends to remind us to never give up and stay focused on good thoughts. We all go there, you are not alone. You are blessed, believe that. Keep us updated.

You're right NYDrama. My phone went out, I guess it sorta worried my sister. She thought I wasn't answering her calls. She told me she would come over tomorrow and watch Sarah while Kristi took me down there. But Pat volunteered her husband because he would know what questions to ask about how to position the trailer since he had to put his daughter's in. So that's what we are going to do.

I still feel sick at my stomach. It ain't gonna settle down until we're all settled in again. I feel displaced as I did when someone burnt our house thirty years ago. That's how old this house is, and daddy built it in a hurry to get us back in a home, so it just wasn't put together as good as our old one was. He helped builed Larry's, Rick's, and my nephew's they are all okay.

Hello ladies,
I posted last night but for some reason it did not go thru. I know mot of you are probably gone to bed. I will try to hhok up with you gal tomorrow.

Good morning ladies, it's a rainy day here in NY(what else is new) I really wish the sun would come out and stay out. Today is the last day for my sons' finals and I am so glad. Trying to get them to study was a nightmare, they are so done with school but the teachers aren't they still have more regular tests next week.

Going to the mall today, Joey needs new pj's all his are too short. I want to look around to see what they might have for me. Plus, Father's Day is around the corner so I need to get Mike something.

Everyone keep raggies in our thoughts today, her dad is getting the stress test done today to see if he can have the chemo. Thanks Maryann for the info.

I hope everyone is doing better today. I hope this will be the last week we have for awhile of stressful things in our lives, we all can use a break. Please be careful though if you are stressed, look what happened to me? Between all the stress and exhaustion, I got strep throat and I don't wish that on anyone so take it easy, sit down on your coach or lay down on your bed and close the door and take a deep breathe and relax when things get tough. That's what I have been doing now and it really feels good and I believe it helps. Ignore the phone and the kids.

So, that was my advice for the day.(lol) Hope to catch up with you all sometime today. Love ya.

good morning ladies, another raining day here.
auntiep very good news that your family are going to help you with your moblie home. it is only right. and yes i love that show ncsi i watch every week they have a good cast of characters. and for my husband it is time for him to move out i am hoping by july first he will be gone. let him go start a new life and leave mine and my kids to build our own. but you know what funny he is a man that is never happy well he wont be my problem for long. now he could go look to be someone elses husband ,daddy and grandfather. he tells my youngest he will be around every weekend and i tell him not tell tell mitch that because he is only going to be hurt the kid when he stops comming around. he gets mad at me when i tell him that so i tell my kid look daddy says he will be here all the time but as time goes on things will change. i dont want mitch to be disappointed i tell my kids the truth so there are no surprises.
so now ladies i have to stop smoking because one i have been smoking to much lately and i cant afford it anymore. so i should be in rare form in the weeks to come.
so how is everyone else today?

Hi everyone!
Auntiep-glad to see things are looking better today! Keep us updated. Make sure you reward yourself w/something good-anything. Sorry to hear of your house, I know how much more it must mean to you since your father built it. Just remember, things can be replaced. Maybe you can take something from the house and use it for something else. You are pretty crafty, I'm sure you'll come up w/something. Take a piece or pieces of the house and recycle it into something you can always keep as a memento of your home.

Roe-hmmmm......I would love to ignore my kids. Especially at 3:00 when GH comes on! THat's when all the screaming starts, till 4:00 so that my 1 hour of t.v. is stressful! I swear it's like clockwork. I'm sad that my little guy had his last day of mini camp today. I'm going to miss those few days a week where I had 2 hours to myself. My other kids finish on 6/25. My daughter has finals coming up too. Lucky you guys are finished. My mom is going to Italy this summer and wants to take my daughter w/her. As much as I would miss her, it would be so great for her. My hubby's hesitant, but I'm ok since it's my mom. I wish we could all go!!! One of my hubby's friends is giving us his beach house in LBI for a week right after school closes. I am so grateful since we stayed home last year and this year didn't look any better. It was a nice surprise. Thank you God!

Gval-well, I am very happy to hear you will quit smoking! Good for you! That's a great way to take your life back and continue on healing and living a healthy life. Besides, the money you save you can put towards something better for you. You will have to treat yourself really well for quitting, so get to it! Make sure you replace smoking w/something else though. ANd don't make it food-that's what alot of people do. When you feel like smoking, I'm sure it's stress related, so go out for a brisk walk or whatever else might work for you. Treat yourself better, not worse. I'm not a smoker, but I've known enough smokers. You can do it!

hugs to all

:)
Hi, gang! Sunny here right now but NY's rain is heading our way. We're due to get some this evening. I'm going to a nearby country western restaurant tonight with my landlord and his ladyfriend. We know the owner and one of his lady bartenders is performing tonight. Her name is Deanna Mitchell and she has a wonderful voice and writes most of her songs. She's made a couple of CDs (she signed one for me) and she has appeared at the Mohican Sun Casino a few times. I can't understand how she hasn't made it big yet. She's awesome! I'm really looking forward to this evening.

I talked to Raggs yesterday. She's still with her sister at the family farm in Alabama. She said her dad saw his cardiologist on Monday and he said he doesn't want him to have any more tests until he gives him a stress test. He can't do the treadmill so they're going to inject him and have him do it lying down. I have no idea how they do that.
He's having it today and Raggs said she'll let us know how he made out. Her dad is sick of having tests and doesn't want any more of them. The chemo is still very questionable. He has to see his oncologist again on June 12th.

I asked Raggs how she's doing and she said her B/P is ok and so is her Blood Sugar levels but she'd had an increase in the dosage of both those meds. Her leg was still getting the painful cramping and was taking a med for that, too.
She sounded calm, in light of all the stress she's under, and was sitting outside bird watching with her sister.

She sends her love to all of you and said she will post here as soon as possible.

Susie, she's been trying to call you and asked if your cell phone is working. I told her I'd ask you.

Auntiep, I updated her on your situation and she said she'd try to call you, too. I hope your phone is fixed by the time she does. I'm so glad your family has stepped up and will take you to sign the papers for your new trailer. Things will be so much better when you're settled into it.
Hope Sarah's still doing better. I pray for her and you every day. Stay strong, lady! Better times are coming.

Everyone else, have a good day. Are we going to try for GNO tomorrow? Sure does sound like everyone could use a stiff drink!

Love ya!
M.A.

Hey guys things have worked out here but not the way everyone wanted. But It's the way I wanted it all along. I didn't get the trailer. The guy jacked the down payment twice as much, upped the percentage rate and payment.

My brother in law asked me who is going to live in the place and who is going to be taking care of it. I said me and he asked me what I wanted I told him.
He took me to a retail lumber place. I can get the roof fixed on my house the one I wanted to get us into all along for less then the down payment. It will take some work in the bathroom. I still don't have a pump. We'll gonna take this one from this well plus, the electrical loop and box from the house. Mark is gonna check the wiring and do the loop and box, poor soul he just installed the same ones here.My house is the same size as the trailer. I told everybody we could save back every month the money we would have paid for the trailer payments and add a room on. This is what I wanted all along. I feel a whole lot better. My brother in law made me see that it was my life and Sarah's too. This IS what we are gonna do. No more pushing me around. I am spitting tired of it. I also feel alot of relief. Take care all, God bless, stay safe, love auntiep

good morning ladies, well it is friday and rainy here again or well. i landed a temp part time job for our other dealership and i am still waiting to hear from my old job. so if i get my old job back i will be working three jobs for a while. last night i asked john when he is moving out and he said there is no rush is there, i wanted to rip out his throat. i said no but i told since he will still be here he has to come home and cook dinner because i have another job to go to after i put in nine hours at my regular job. i want to punch him i really do but i wont. he started looking for a place right away and now it seems he is dragging his feet. the guy needs help.

Hi girls!
It's a rainy, dreary day, but that's ok since I'm just cleaning and doing laundry. Besides, the weekend sounds beautiful! My girlfriend called me last night, she's been asked to go to an American Cancer Society charity event as a survivor and since she really doesn't like reminding herself w/that, she is recruiting me to keep her spirits up. The pressure's on! It's going to be a long night so I'm not going to be around for GNO.

Auntiep-well, that's even greater news! Keep doing whatever you're doing, it's working! Hows Sarah doing? Hope she's better.

Gval-he sounds like he's doing exactly what he wants when he wants. He's the one who set this in motion and now he's saying what's the rush? I hope you are prepared for his games, cuz you need to set your rules too. I'm saying this since I think you and the boys deserve that. You don't have to be mean, but he started this and you can't be left in the lurch while he's calling the shots. I don't think that's healthy for any of you. Tomorrow's supposed to be beautiful, I hope you plan on doing something outdoors, you need to get out of the house.
How's Mitch doing?

MA-thanks for the update on Raggs. We'll be praying. Hang in there, Raggs!

Happy Friday, girls! Anybody coming for GNO? I know NY said she was going out and Gval sounded like she has plans but I'm not sure if they were for tonight. I'll check in at 8pm and see if anyone shows up.

Auntiep, our 'Moonlight' is on SciFi channel tonight. Did you see that he's going to be in a new series on CBS this fall? It's another medical show about transplants and he's a doctor. I'm so glad one of the networks had the good sense to snatch him up. I really loved him as Mick on Moonlight. I still watch all the reruns.
Was glad to hear that things are looking up for you. Maybe all our prayers for you are being answered. How's Sarah today?

I haven't heard anymore from Raggs today. Her dad had the stress test yesterday so maybe we'll hear something tomorrow.

Let me go make my drink for GNO and I'll be back.

M.A.

Hi Girls ~~~

My PC is acting up again! I can't afford a new one, so I just keep cussing this one and keeping logging in until it lets me log on!

Auntiep ~~~ Thank you so much for the basket. With all you have going on in your life, I was surprised you had the time to think of me! I'm glad Sarah's tests came back normal. You are such a blessing. I hate your family makes it so hard on you. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

I went back to the doctor today. I lost another 5 lbs. I'm down to 115 lbs. I eat 4 or 5 times a day. No large meals, just enough to keep me going. We went to Cracker Barrel after my appointment and ate chicken 'n dumplings. I brought half of mine home for dinner. My blood work was about the same as last time. I didn't need a transfusion, but a Procrit shot. Jan, Terry and the kids went camping for the weekend. They wanted me to go too, but I didn't feel I was strong enough, and didn't want to ruin their weekend. I took my shower and changed my pain patch, and have been messing w/ my PC for over an hour.

Wayne called Thursday. He had the divorce papers. He'd signed them, had them notorized and was mailing them back to the lawyer. He was bragging about taking his new lady friend to Biloxi last weekend to gamble. He just doesn't understand how bad it hurts when he talks about what a good time he's having w/ someone new in his life! He keeps saying how glad he is we parted as friends!! I'm sorry to say this friend is about to blow up!! I totally expect him to remarry before the end of the year, so he'll have a tax deduction for his taxes. She has a 10 year old son from her first marriage. He's living w/ her at her house during the week, and then brings her to what used to be our house for the weekend. Sarah and Brad are still living at the house. Sarah's car tore up, so Wayne is letting her drive his truck, since he's driving his new lady friends car. Do I sound Bitter????? I hope so....because I'm getting there more and more each day! I think the lawyer said the divorce would be granted 6 weeks after Wayne mails the papers back to him. I still have a lot of my stuff left at the house. I don't know when I'll be strong enough to go get the rest of it. When I left I just took what I thought I needed for the treatment period here in TN. I had no idea it was going to turn into a permanent move. Wayne swears all my stuff is still there, just like I left it. We'll see I guess!

My hair is starting to grow back in. It's like peach fuss right now. I had to buy a new electric razor to shave my legs. Sarah was using my old one when I left. My neice, Branda, waxed my eyebrows and mustache the other day. My tan is coming along pretty good. I'm able to walk w/o my cane, and can take a shower by myself now. I've applied for my SS Disability. Who kows how long it'll take for it to go through. I'm too young for any of the assisted living faciclities around here. I can't afford my own place on just my AT&T pension each month. I don't have a car, and my doctor say's I'm permanently disabled, so I can't work. I'm in 'limbo' land! Anyway, guess I'll close here. Hopefully, my PC will let me in again soon. All my love, Susie