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Thank you Cardgirl for your awsome post. You are so right about the selfloathing. It does no good but but you in a bad state of mind. This past Friday I HAD to go shopping for me some clothes I was getting so sad about it b/c I couln't fit in an extra large I needed to go to plus for it to fit around my belly even though its way to big everywhere else. I was really starting to come down on myself and not enjoying the fact that my friend and I were without kids shopping by ourselves something we never get to do and here I was being a party pooper. So I decided to turn that frown upside down and just made the size motivate me instead of getting me depressed. And after it was all said and done I found three cute shirts in the petite section in XL that fit just right. Looking good in clothes is only one reason I want to loose my main goal is my heart health my mom died at 36 of a heart attack and I don't want that to happen to me. POSITIVE thinking can really go along way!

cadgirl-
i loved your post. it has inspired me. althought i have been trying to eat healthy and change my lifestyle for the past 5 months i considered today day 1 of my life change. i am about 80lbs overweight and have been dealing with it for about 6 years. its tough but reading about the way you have been approaching this change in your life is really making me look into how i am doing it for me. i have a thyroid issue as well but its "borderline" as the doctor says so no meds or anything. both my parents are trying to make changes as well and we are trying to challenge each other to stay motivated.

i'm feeling pretty good so far on day 1. i walked for 30 minutes this morning at the gym, had a bagel with cream cheese and soymilk for breakfast and tuna, carrots and crackers for lunch.

i'm just nervous and trying to figure out tonight. we are having a going away party for a friend during happy hour at a bar so that means drinks and bar food.
***any ideas or helpful hints? i was going to have 1 light beer but food is the bigger issue. i mean what is there to eat?

Hey everyone, thanks to those of you who responded to my posts positivly...

So today I stayed within my calories, for breakfas I had toast, 3/4 cup of Spicial K, and 6oz of milk. Lunch was a pear, half a sandwhich and diet coke caffine free. Dinner was five chicken nuggets for McDonalds which were only 60 calories with the sauce fifteen fries and a BLT salad no chicken, and no cheese.. I don't like cheese. And blueberry yogert.

So here is another tip I thought of... I love choclate mostly dark chocolate...so I bought some Almond M&M's and some small jewelery bags in the craft department of Walmart. I put twenty M&M's in each bag and when I need some chocolate...take one small bag out eat ten M&M's and same the rest for the next time I want them. I then do not feel reprived and I do not go overboard. I am very conscious about what I am eating... Some people tend to eat absent mindedly... like when they are cooking the will graze..or when they are board they will eat.

I highly recommend the calorie counting though... as long as you don't go over and you measure your food, and be conscious of what a serving is... and what is in the food you are eating...like are most calories empty calories or good calories...like sugary things are fine in moderation but if it is refined sugar, that is not that good. I eat what I want... I just don't go outside my calories...usually. But it is equally as important to make sure if you are going to use this method that you make sure you don't skip calories... getting the right amount is as important as trying not to go over.

Also I was thinking about this book I just read...It's called It's Not What You Are Eating, It's What's Eating You." It addresses why people over eat. Do you eat when you are depressed, lonely or board? Do you eat when you are upset, or do you eat because you are trying to escape some feeling you don't want to have or acknowledge. Are you eating to self sooth or compfort yourself? It was very interesting because this book points out that people who really can recognize why the overeat and address it, are much more likely to keep the weight off after they loose it.

Also, I thought it was interesting how they talked about how some people who has gastric bypass surgery lost weight and kept it off but about 40 percent of people who have the surgery pick up some other addiction within six months to a year after having the surgery... because they did not address the fact that it was an addictive behavior that made them eat...so they had to feed their addictive behavior.. and some people got gambling problems, became compulsive shoppers, or because drug user or alcoholic.

Sometimes our other behaviors that are not that healthy for us are related to why we over eat... like I used to shop and shop and buy stuff I really did not need...and I would always eat while I was out and I would eat twice as much as I needed... then I started to ask myself in the store Do I need this or do I want this.. if it was a want, I put it back.. I also tried to think about what may have preciptated my shopping binge.. a lot of the time it was because I had and argument with somebody or somebody said something to hurt my feelings... Instead of confronting that person who said something to hurt me, I would go shop to make myself feel better... Well now I speak up more...it is really really hard.. because before I would not do it because I did not want that person to dislike me, for confronting them. But now that I just get it off my chest, most of the time the other person says they are sorry... if not, well, I just make myself aware that I was hurt and voiced it instead of stuffing my feelings.

Also, I suffer from Major Depression, I have for years and years, in alot of ways it is harder than my physical disability.. but when I started my lifestyle change.. I started to earnestly see a therapist. This is the first time I have ever stayed in counselling for more than a year without bailing because the counsellor was starting to go somewhere I did not want to go...once I started confronting my feelings well I felt better.

Like last week I broke up with my boyfriend who I was with for a very long time...I am hurt but instead of eating or using that as a reason to have a pity party, I went to my shrink an extra time.. and actually said what I was feeling instead of keeping it in... then I wrote the guy a letter just to say what I need to say to him so that I would not have to bottle up my feelings. I told him I didn't care if he did not come back.. that was not my reason for writing him.. I just needed to say some stuff to him. I feel bad, but not like I am going to do something self destructive...

I also told him that if he did not respond to me that was all right with me.. I just needed to say it... he did respond... but it did not change his mind... I didn't expect it to... and being real with myself is probably the best thing I can do for myself right now.

So if you think you are depressed I encourage you to get outside help.. talking somebody who is totally objective is a good thing... Even if you talk to a stranger.. or write down how you are feeling.. it will help you to not hang on to it.. and if you are an emotional eater this will really help you sort things out.

Well, I hope you all had good days today.. and I hope you all have good days tomorrow... even if you do just one good thing toward changing your lifestyle...at least it is something... if you keep doing it.. it will just become habit.. it did for me. Be well, and be kind to yourself.. and don't say anything bad about yourself. Peace.

Good Morning everyone,

I just wanted to check in and let you now how things went at the bar last night. I did alright. I actually just had water instead of the beer or soda and i had a small appetizer of plain chips and guacamole. Not the greatest but better than what I would normally have ordered.

cadgirl- i'm definately a stress eater so i know what you are talking about. i have also been battling a 3rd episode of depression. i'm doing better tho more even keel. something i've learned that helps for those that are possibly keeping a food diary is to right down your mood for the last hour when you eat. its very revealing to see patterns emerge, atleast for me it was.

day 2 so far so good.

keep it up everyone!

Cardgirl your post are so great and informational! I love the idea of the jewelry bags with m&m's I'm so going to do this this weekend! I had a horrible craving last night for something sweet and I sent my hubby out for some frozen chocolate yogurt. I normal would have gotten the icecream but the yogurt really is just as good if not better and a lot less cal's. Theres 6 of us in our family so everyone got a serving and now it is gone thank goodness! I eat out of bordam and a little nervousness I think. I have a home daycare and my nerves wear then and I turn to food working hard to change that habit!

Neca-marie I keep a food journal that is something I learned at ww meetings yrs ago but never thought to put what I was feeling down with it I'm going to try this also and see what my pattern is so I can change it. Thanks so much ladies!

I'm checkin' in ackwood......verdict: I AM STILL FAT!

Check back in later, but I am assuming it will be the same results!!!



BTW: Some of these threads are amazing and inspiring, keep up the fabulous work.....

hello everyone,

been a crazy couple of days. didn't get to work out because i didn't sleep at all. the reason...twilight saga. i started and finished the 3rd book-eclipse i was so engrossed that i read all night and finished it in my car in the parking lot at work. crazy i know but if you've read the books than you know what i'm talking about.

on the 4th book hehe

but still eating well!!

Hey everybody, just wanted to check in and say hi.

It has been a good couple of days. I am still right on track... one snafu has been that I started retaining water again.. I tend to do this in massive amounts Usually I take the prescribed dierhetics and wallah I am fine.

This time though it is not going so well. I was one meidcation and nothing happend. Fortunatel I have a doctor who respects the fact that I know my body better than he deos. I had him change the meds, now I am on two different dierhetic... but I am not passing hardly any fluid. I feel disoriented... If I am not better tomorrow, my doctor will admit to the hospital to some IV and dyalisis. I hope it does not come to this. But I will do what I have to do.

Please pray for me though as this process is very dangerous for my heart and I could go into cardiac arrest. I don't think it will happen, but I do think I will have to be in the hospital.

I have stayed within my calorie intake goal and added the diatary supplement call Acai... it is good for energy and for cleansing the blood. I can feel a difference and I just started taking it a few days ago... the doctor said it may help with the water retention as to much liquid can casue the lymph system to become cloged.

Lately, I have tried to keep myself from being bored... that is when I eat, so in order to keep my hands busy I restarted my home based business. I am making all kinds of things out of polymar clay... it is so much fun. Now all I have to do is find a way to incorporate it into the rest of my businees which is disigning greeting cards by hand and building scrap books for other people. This has been good for my self discipline, and to keep me motivated to do other things nor related to eatin.

Hope everybody has a great weekend, and I will check ino next week. Just all of you hang in there. Remember you are a lovable worthing person with a lot to offer this world. Be kind to yourself... don't say the words I am fat... Say instead, I will make a life style change, and I wiil stay possitive, and commited to myself... eventually a new me will emerge. Take care, be well, peace.

Cardgirl

If you think this thread is good, you would love the other site I am on for weight control and dieting. It is SparkPeople.com and it is fantastic. Check it out!

Okay I lost 1 more pound and I found a like new tredmil for $75.00 so now I can get in some exercise!

Oh my goodness, I would have never guessed I would be so sore from a tredmill! My butt, hips, and waist are so SORE!!! My calves hurt to but not really until I'm on the tm for about 10 min. I'm so out of shape! but not for long!!!! The freash fruit is getting good around here and is a lot cheaper so I've been enjoying that for my snack if I feel hunger. Still have to watch that though b/c they do have calories unlike the veggies! Hope everyone is doing well with their life style changes!!